tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5439274167258781832.post8322400096801887406..comments2023-03-22T00:45:57.767-07:00Comments on Methodical Musings of an Unbalanced Woman: "You never know when she's going to yell"Melaniehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03734177506438734993noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5439274167258781832.post-26756977922991471002011-11-22T12:16:07.608-08:002011-11-22T12:16:07.608-08:00Thanks you guys. I, too, know that parenting is h...Thanks you guys. I, too, know that parenting is hard. All I can say is that I try. And most of the time I try my best. That's all I can do. Thanks for your kind words y'all.Melaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03734177506438734993noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5439274167258781832.post-84983584775420785302011-11-22T08:23:33.667-08:002011-11-22T08:23:33.667-08:00I don't want to be a parent who yells a lot. ...I don't want to be a parent who yells a lot. But sometimes I do. (And sometimes they deserve it.) So I can relate - both to the guilt over having done it, and the desire not to do it as much. Jocelyn is right - parenting is hard. And the fact that you've given this as much thought as you have shows that you are a loving parent, you know?TheOneTrueSuehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18152442732262673983noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5439274167258781832.post-14165187553416130742011-11-03T17:13:38.099-07:002011-11-03T17:13:38.099-07:00Just saw this- I don't know how I missed it be...Just saw this- I don't know how I missed it before! Last night I asked my kids, point blank, if they didn't listen to me or do as I say because I'm too nice to them. This really gave them some food for thought, I guess, because they've been excellent. But on the other hand, it sparked a conversation between a friend and myself about how we're either TOO nice, lovey-dovey, sugary sweet to our kids, or we're Mommy-dearest (yes. She's depressive too). Maybe the lovey is to over compensate for when we're "evil", or maybe we just need to try to find a "common ground." I don't know and I'm a little too sick right now to think about, but really, I also know we need to realize that parenting is so, so hard. And exhausting. And gratifying. And uplifting. From what I see, I'm pretty sure you're doing just fine :)Jocelynnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5439274167258781832.post-47268940885070106032011-11-02T20:49:51.204-07:002011-11-02T20:49:51.204-07:00President Benson's whole talk from that Octobe...President Benson's whole talk from that October General Conference is great!! It is titled, "Do Not Despair".Rebeccahttp://messofmusings.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5439274167258781832.post-46046898258419702692011-11-02T20:11:34.109-07:002011-11-02T20:11:34.109-07:00Ooooo...Rebecca...thanks and I really like that qu...Ooooo...Rebecca...thanks and I really like that quote. I'm glad you shared it.Melaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03734177506438734993noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5439274167258781832.post-72520301531408115322011-11-02T19:13:50.274-07:002011-11-02T19:13:50.274-07:00Just remember life, mood, behavior is not an on/of...Just remember life, mood, behavior is not an on/off switch - more like a dimmer switch... and can go from full brightness to dim (even in a single day).<br /><br />You are a great mom!! on a scale of 1-10... with 1 being the worst mom ever (ties kids to chairs, locks them in closets, beats them for no reason, etc). certainly you are NOT NOT NOT even close to that category!!<br /><br />I would say you fall somewhere around 8 or 9 (because a perfect 10 doesn't live here on earth!). you love your children, recognize when they are having problems - and try to help them (climbing out of depression's darkness yourself IS helping your children!!)<br /><br />Hang in there Melanie!! Ezra Taft Benson once said... "There are times when you simply have to righteously hang on and outlast the devil until his depressive spirit leave you." (Ensign, November 1974)Rebeccahttp://messofmusings.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5439274167258781832.post-31149791742502807562011-11-02T15:58:31.101-07:002011-11-02T15:58:31.101-07:00Thanks Miss MyLa. You guys are my support group, ...Thanks Miss MyLa. You guys are my support group, aren't you? <br /><br />I usually do a good job of determining feelings...I'm just so overwhelmed right now with....life....that it seems hard to pinpoint just one thing. <br /><br />And then I realize...I just need to focus on one thing at a time. Then it's not so bad.Melaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03734177506438734993noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5439274167258781832.post-17453685976811618472011-11-02T12:55:42.590-07:002011-11-02T12:55:42.590-07:00You are so beautiful. I think it's great that ...You are so beautiful. I think it's great that you care so much about how you affect your family. I am learning how to manage depression and anxiety by taking baby steps. I have sought counseling, tried various medications, books, church and self help. What works for me is having a strong support system. Your family and us, your readers, are your support system, so use us. When you feel down or dicouraged..think about why. Sometimes (for me anyway) there is no reason, it's just how I feel, but challenge yourself to understand how you feel when those moments come along. I've found that it's best to be aware of your pattern. Get to know what affects you negatively and positively and conduct yourself accordingly as best you can. I am not a counselor, but like I said, I've been there and I understand. These are just some things that seem to work for me.Miss MyLa Jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01788111703877922894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5439274167258781832.post-51187949812128364362011-10-31T14:24:14.199-07:002011-10-31T14:24:14.199-07:00Thank goodness for forgiveness. Where would we al...Thank goodness for forgiveness. Where would we all be without it? I just hate that my kiddos have already suffered so much...and now again. UGH! But...today has been really good so far. :)Melaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03734177506438734993noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5439274167258781832.post-34524812164296282282011-10-31T12:14:45.291-07:002011-10-31T12:14:45.291-07:00Yelling is one of my biggest faults...I do really ...Yelling is one of my biggest faults...I do really well for several days and then I just become too overwhelmed and yell. But, we aren't expected to be perfect...only to try our best to exemplify the life Christ would want us to live, and that's what helps me through...knowing I can still improve.Judy Whatiliveforhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11635437579881284171noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5439274167258781832.post-14963146668829762902011-10-31T06:32:28.303-07:002011-10-31T06:32:28.303-07:00I find myself driving the Spirit from our home, as...I find myself driving the Spirit from our home, as well, on occasion. I try (try being the key word) to remember to remain calm when my boys fight/disobey/make a huge mess...sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. I know you can change the things you want, Mel. You are a strong woman and can recognize your faults and WANT to work on them. Like you said, that is a good sign! Love ya!Natalie Jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11976561767862522339noreply@blogger.com